How Can This Be?

So in 3 short hours I will be the mother to an "adult" child. How did this happen?

I mean, he's still a senior in high school and for all intents and purposes, nothing has really changed, but in the legal sense, he is his own person. He has to go register with selective service, register to vote and still plans on seeing the Marine recruiter sometime after the new year.

Part of me couldn't wait for this day especially the last couple of years. His teen years have been a real struggle for me. If you know me well, I've likely told you that young children are easy to parent. I've NEVER questioned my parenting until number 1 became a teenager. We've had so many issues and stumbling blocks - from the academics taking a nosedive starting in 8th grade to the lure of alcohol & drugs. Through all of this, glimpses of this amazing person would show through and I would grab hold of that and not let go. It kept me going on those days that I really felt like shooing him out the door and telling him not to come back because it just seemed like it would never get better.

Hubby says that number one and I are two peas in a pod. We are both extremely stubborn and tenacious. I like to call it the WJC streak because that is so like my Dad. In some things, this stubbornness allows us to get things done, in others it makes us totally unapproachable & hard to reach. It's a real pain for anyone who lives in our house when we are going head to head, I'm sure.

Number one was an easy baby, an easy child and an easy tween - kind, good grades, honest, athletic - he was an all around good kid. For a few years he was moody and sullen or happy and easy going - you just never knew which. For the most part, he is back to being easy, but I've also laid off on most parenting issues. I figure, whatever "taught" was either learned or not, but I didn't have any more "control". He would do what it was he was going to do. As parents we have pretty much given free reign with the knowledge that if he lied or otherwise abused our trust, that would be it. He hasn't done anything to upset the apple cart to our knowledge. In fact, I've seen him turn towards his family more and more in the last year. He values each and every one of them - from us (his parents) to each of his aunts, uncles & cousins.

I could tell you a million great things about my first born son, but I don't think that any of them would ever explain my absolute love and admiration for him. He has been my "go to" kid for just about everything for such a long time. I'm afraid to let him go because I'm selfish and wonder how I will manage without him. While I don't want to let him go, I also can't wait to see where he goes. He's smarter than he thinks and has such potential. I keep telling him that he can do ANYTHING and that this is the most exciting part of life and not to wish it away.

I hope tomorrow brings only good things for my first baby. I hope the coming year his blessings overflow, but what parent doesn't?

Stay tuned...I know I will.

My cookie & candy list for Christmas

Just thought I would share...be happy to send any recipes for anyone who is interested!

Cookies:
Anise biscotti
Chocolate almond biscotti
Christmas cutouts cookies
Ginger almond refrigerator cookies
Lemon cheese pressed cookies
Jam Thumbprints (apricot & strawberry)
Orange drop cookies w/orange butter icing (taken from a friend's recipe swap blog)
Dark chocolate espresso shortbread (also taken from blog)
Stuffed Red Velvet cookies (recipe from friend)
Gingerbread house, cottage & other various gingerbread cutouts (lots of candy to decorate these)
Pizzelles (anise flavored)

I have the biscotti & most of the cutouts done. Today I am going to work on the pressed cookies and get the dough ready for the ginger almond cookies. If I have time, I will also do the shortbread. I have to find some bigger bottles of red food coloring before I can make the red velvet cookies, but that's ok. I forgot LOL American cheese and that's a no no here so I will have to hit the grocery store soon.
The pizzelles will be done very close to Christmas as they are not easy to store.


Candies:
Peanut butter balls
Peppermint patties
truffles (maybe oreo - def. liqueur flavored - Frangelico (hazelnut), Bailey's Irish Cream & maybe Amaretto if I can get to the package store.)

I will have to get my fondant done soon. It needs a couple of days to "ripen" after making it. The PB balls and especially the truffles are easy peasy and will likely be done next week.

For the most part, I've cut down on the sheer amount of cookies I make and the amount of candies as well. It got so overwhelming for a few years and stopped being fun.

Also this year, because money is very tight, I am opting out of buying the teachers gifts. I have a "In a Jar" cookbook that I will use to make some cookie, muffin or scone mixes and one of the teacher's has asked that we give to a local food bank instead. I did pick up two "kid friendly" cookbooks at Job Lot for a dollar for the pre-K and K classrooms though. I know the teachers understand, but I feel so badly not being able to do much.

Well, no more sitting here - there's baking to be done! TTFN!

Oh my word

I am sitting here with so many things to do, sipping my almost cold coffee and trying to figure out what to do first (and find the motivation to do it.) Well, first I need to exercise, but I mean after that. I think this is called "lollygagging".

I have decided to cut down on the sheer amount of baking I do for the holidays. I usually find so many cookie recipes and I want to make them all so I try and yeah - I get burnt out and crazy - over baking. Silly woman. This year I have 6-8 cookie recipes that I will make and for candy I plan on doing almond joys and peppermint patties. Of course, I will still need to make the gingerbread for our house too. I'm thinking that might be a good project this weekend. Poor number 6....unless I find another "glue" to hold the candy on the house, she won't be helping. Why does royal icing have to be made with egg whites anyway?

So here I sit neither exercising nor getting baking done which really stinks because the time seems to move so much faster after 9am. Ugh. I swear I just looked at the time and it read 8:48am. It is now 9:21am. See?! There is a time conspiracy after 9am! I'm sure of it now.

Well - I better be off to find my motivation...won't get anything done without it!

12-07-09

After a busy weekend, I am reflecting on my father's passing 3 years ago today. While there is sorrow still in my heart, slowly it is replaced by fond memories that make me smile and if I was truthful sometimes some not so fond memories which still bring tears to my eyes. In my personal belief system, God will allow me to know all the answers to those still nagging feelings/thoughts at some point. Maybe not this lifetime, but sometime. I take comfort in that.

My Dad was a complicated man. There was the man who drank and was a total butthole and then there was the father who doted on me and who I knew loved me unconditionally. I am positive he had demons of his own - some known to others and some not. I know he loved his kids and despite some of the craziness of growing up with an alcoholic, we loved him too. Sometimes I think me most of all. I think my Mom loved my Dad too and I think that if my Dad wasn't so controlling & abusive to her when he drank, things might have ended differently for them.

I lived with my Dad until I married Chris and moved out - well except for the 2.5 years I chose to live with my mother & stepfather. He was my confidante. I could talk to him about anything and usually did. Other people thought he was a wonderful guy - handsome, kind, compassionate, smart. He was all those things except when the drink took it away. My Dad was an enigma, but I think many people are. You cannot pigeonhole people because there are so many facets to them and often times, what you see on the outside is just a small part of what is on the inside. Anyway, he was what he was. He was good and bad and despite the bad, I still miss him and will always love him.